By Kate Jegede
New Thought philosophies can be applied to any situation in life and I encourage you to explore this concept as creatively as you can. One way in which I like to use the power of positive thought is in the area of relationships.
Whether your relationships are as wonderful as you wish them to be or you feel that there is room for improvement, using metaphysical methods to manage and sustain them is as rewarding as is it empowering.
I revisited this idea back in September 2017 during a short period of emotional turmoil. A friendship with someone I admire greatly had come under strain and I was worried about not being able to make things right between us again.
As you may be aware, I interpret and write about the teachings of Neville Goddard because I have proven them time and time again and so turning to my work for a solution to this problem was completely natural. I wanted a strategy that I was confident would be able to repair an ailing relationship.
I used an exercise from my book Infinite Possibility which guides the reader in mentally communicating with others. This has nothing to do with manipulation of any sort, and it isn’t a trick, it is about controlling the direction of one’s own attention for a specified purpose.
If you are able to accept that our thoughts and moods are causative, then this technique should feel like something you are willing to try.
Whatever your position the important thing here is an internal commitment to the health of your relationship, holding in mind the image, and in heart the feeling, that the relationship is as you want it to be. intriguingly, while you wait for things to unfold outwardly, you do nothing, you take no deliberate physical action to help things along. Any necessary action is inspired and will be undertaken by you without consideration as to what the outcome might be.
I spent a few days focussed on the repair of my friendship, not willing it to be so but allowing myself to accept that it was so and as expected, all was well once again between my friend and me.
You’d be forgiven for thinking that situations like these have a way of simply working themselves out but that simply isn’t the case. There is no physical event that does not have a spiritual origin.
Recalling this episode in a blog post for harvbishop.com I wrote: “I took no outward action. I didn’t attempt to smooth things over. I just replaced my anxious mood with a harmonious one and accepted with certainty that the relationship I cherished was better than it had ever been. A few days were all it took to confirm the change in my mood. The friendship that I was willing to give up on became stable, loving and mutually supportive. Without going into detail, I found a closeness and a trust that was stronger than before.
This event led me to think about the different ways in which this concept could be practically applied.”
I’d like to end by repeating the question I asked in the blog post.
Could one, by cultivating a feeling of certainty, guarantee specific outcomes in their lives? In this case, could you cultivate a mood of loving mutual benefit and have that mood express itself in the form of a loving and mutually beneficial relationship?
These questions deserve, an answer. You deserve to know.
You have the power and the absolute right to test this theory and I hope that you take up the challenge. And you won’t find me judging if you feel sceptical. I find scepticism healthy as long as it doesn’t shut down enquiry or objectivity. Neville Goddard himself often spoke of the perfect reasonableness of unbelief. Faith, he once wrote results from theories proven by the testing coupled with successful outcomes rather than taking things at face value.
Just think, these methods are available to you right now, needing nothing more than experimentation to yield their abundant riches to you. They are free, they make no demand of you, they don’t ask you to give up who you are or what you do for a living. They only ask that you dedicate a few moments of your time to work with them and watch them — in turn — work for you.
If you could have the relationships you have always dreamed of by doing nothing more than controlling your moods relative to them, wouldn’t you take the chance?
I sincerely hope that you do.